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Assets That Do Not Form Part of the Estate

When somebody die, they are deemed to have sold all of their assets just before death. Of course, in reality, nothing has been sold yet, and it will be up to the executor to sell or bequeath the assets of the estate, following the terms of the will. However, in many estates there are assets which are not owned by the estate. But how can that be? How can the assets be owned by the deceased while he was alive, but not owned by his estate after death? If the estate doesn’t own those assets, who does?

Some assets are owned jointly, with each owner having the right of survivorship. For example, a joint bank account. Each of the two owners owns the entire bank account, and when one of them passes away, the name of the deceased is removed from the account, leaving the survivor as the only owner. The estate is not the owner of that bank account, but rather the survivor is the owner. Another common example is the family home, which is often times owned by a couple in joint tenancy. When one of the two owners dies, the name of the deceased is removed from title, leaving the survivor’s name on title. Once again, the house does not form part of the estate.

There are other common examples, too, such as insurance policies and retirement savings. Most insurance policies and retirement savings accounts have one or more named beneficiaries, so the proceeds of the policy will go directly to the named beneficiaries, meaning the policy and RRSP/RRIF do not form part of the estate.

If you need to file for probate, only those assets owned by the estate will get included, meaning you will not have to pay probate fees for those other assets. So why then are insurance policies sometimes included in the probate application? If the policy owner never named a beneficiary, or if the beneficiary died, then the estate becomes the beneficiary, meaning the value of the policy needs to be included in the list of assets, on which probate fees are calculated.

By now some of you might be thinking you could save a lot of time and money if you became a joint owner on your parents’ house. You’d save on probate fees, and you might even eliminate the need for probate altogether. Well, you’d be correct on those two points, but there’s more to consider, especially for your parent(s), so you’d be well-advised to speak with an accountant before going on title.

Sometimes real estate is owned by two or more people as Tenants in Common, rather than Joint Tenancy. If one of the owners dies, that person’s share of the property forms part of the estate, can be sold or bequeathed, and does not automatically transfer to the surviving owner(s). You’d rarely see this type of ownership for the family home, but you would frequently see it for investment properties.

Gregg Medwid is the owner and president of Executor Support, a firm based in Coquitlam, British Columbia, with expertise assisting executors and administrators in settling estates. The project management expertise and customer service focus Medwid brings to Executor Support ensures questions are answered and help is given when it is most needed.

This article is in no way intended to substitute for competent legal advice.

Gregg Medwid, Owner
Executor Support
gregg@executorsupport.ca

My Brother

“Larry, this is mom.  Ron is in surgery in Vancouver.  He has cancer.”

Imagine getting this phone call about your little brother… perhaps you have already received a similar call about a friend, co-worker, or family member.

My younger brother was 25 at the time.  Diagnosed with lymphoma he was in surgery having his spleen and lymph nodes removed.  I am blessed that nearly 30 years after that conversation with my mom, I was able to speak with him on the phone last evening about coming over for a visit to see me.

Working now for the Canadian Cancer Society I have a much better understanding of what a family can do when they get this news.  Initially I went through a very normal pattern of emotions:  fear, anxiety, helplessness, despair, and anger.

I have found that many people want to do something fairly quickly.  We don’t want to stand on the sidelines while our loved ones are fighting for their lives.  Many people make time and volunteer for their cause.  Some will donate money on the spot.  We all want to do whatever it takes to help and to make us feel we can personally be involved.

However, later on with the perspective of time and healing we look for deeper and more meaningful ways to contribute.  I have conversations everyday with people who want to make a planned charitable gift.  Everyone has a cause they want to support and for many that is the fight against cancer.  I engage in meaningful conversations with them to better understand their charitable motivation and to encourage them to carefully consider the impact that they want to make.  Then we discuss the best method (or combination of methods) to make a planned gift.  It could be as simple as changing a beneficiary designation on an RRSP to a charity, to making a gift of a life insurance policy, or updating their will to include their charity or cause of choice.

There are significant tax benefits that come from giving; but I find that these are always secondary to that more profound interest of “doing something for my little brother”.

I offer my specialist support at no obligation to individual donors and to professional advisors and their clients.  Please feel free to contact me if you would like to have a conversation about making your own impact… no matter the charitable cause that inspires you.

Larry D. Amstutz, CHS
Charitable Giving Advisor
Canadian Cancer Society, BC and Yukon Division
Charity Reg. # 11882-9803 RR0002Tel: +1 604 675 7351 Cell: +1 778 867 5015
565 West 10th Avenue
Vancouver, BC V5Z 4J4

 

Fight the Flu – 3 Easy Steps

Spread the Word…Not the Flu

It’s flu season again and adults over 65 are particularly vulnerable to the flu and its complications.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), influenza is a major cause of hospitalization, disability and even death for older people. Every year about 9 out of 10 flu-related deaths occur in adults over 65. Because the immune system may decline with age, traditional flu vaccines sometimes don’t work as well in elderly people. For these people, a higher-dose version is also available. The higher dose triggers the body to produce more antibodies against the flu virus.

Fight the flu with 3 simple steps:

1. Get flu shots.

A yearly flu vaccine is the first and most important step to protecting not just yourself but those in your care against flu viruses. Both you and the person in your care should be vaccinated, ideally in later summer or fall, before the flu season starts. A yearly vaccine is needed because the flu virus changes year to year; each year’s vaccine is made to protect against the three most common viruses for that year. The most serious complication of flu is pneumonia, so, in addition to age, people with chronic health conditions like asthma, COPD, diabetes or heart disease are at especially high risk.

2. Stop the spread of germs

  • Cover coughs and sneezes with a tissue and toss it after use.
  • Wash your hands often with soap and water. If soap and water are not available, use an alcohol based hand sanitizer. Hand washing is the NUMBER ONE way to reduce spreading germs.
  • Avoid touching your eyes, nose and mouth.
  • Avoid close contact with sick people.
  • If you are sick with flu-like illness, stay home for at least24 hours after your fever is gone(without the use of fever-reducing meds) except to get medical care or for other necessities. While you are sick, it is important to limit contact with others as much as possible to keep from infecting them.

3.Use flu antiviral if a doctor prescribes them.

Prescription antiviral do not prevent or cure the flu. They are sometimes given to make the flu milder and possibly prevent serious complications. They work best if used within 48 hours of first symptoms (cough, sore throat, fever, aches and stuffy/runny nose), but may be given later if the person is very sick or is at high-risk of complications. Antiviral is not  a substitute for the flu vaccine.

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Source: National Council on Aging; CDC

Heather Martin, CDP
Comfort Keepers
Helping you stay Happier, Healthier & At Home
Serving Vancouver, Burnaby, New Westminster, Delta, White Rock and Surrey South of Fraser Hwy
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White Rock, BC V4B 3X7
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Email: heathermartin@comfortkeepers.ca

 

Settling an Estate by an Objective Unemotional 3rd Party

In many families settling an estate can be quite difficult and take a long time because the family members don’t get along with one another, don’t speak with each other or just don’t trust each other. This can make an executor’s job that much harder. How would you react as an executor if one of the beneficiaries accused you of hiding something? Are you able to remain objective when there are long-standing issues between you and your siblings? Will you continue to move the estate forward if someone threatens to challenge the terms of the will in court? Is someone bitter because they weren’t selected as the executor? Are the beneficiaries second-guessing your actions and decisions?

The list of possible issues can go on and on… every family is different… so the executor needs to remain objective and unemotional. Either that or the executor can hire someone to assist who will communicate with everyone else. How can these difficult situations be diffused? Better yet, how can we prevent them from arising in the first place? Really, it isn’t that difficult, but it can feel impossible if you’re caught up in the emotion.

The top 3 solutions are these: communication, communication, communication. Beneficiaries deserve to receive frequent status updates, including what has recently been accomplished, what is still left to do, and where any pitfalls may lie. All reports provided should be clear, complete and easy to understand. In a word, transparent.

communication strat.

Next, the financials. Eventually, the beneficiaries will be provided with the financial reports and asked to pass the accounts, so another idea is to provide interim financial reports. You will likely prepare a list of assets & liabilities for probate, so you could start by providing that report. Next, all bank transactions should be recorded, so you could also provide that list. Then there’s the list of revenue & expenses… this report could also be provided, which should clearly show all of the expenses incurred by the estate since the date of death.

What else? Do not procrastinate. It’s so easy to do, with all of the other obligations we have in our lives. If you believe you’ll have to justify your every action, sometimes it’s easier to just put it aside and do something else, but then that task stays on your mind, preventing you from relaxing. Don’t procrastinate, just continue to be objective and complete the task now, not later.

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People tend to not tell their ‘story’ to anyone acting professionally and objectively. I rarely hear unreasonable statements. People tend to keep their comments/questions brief and factual. It’s this objective person who can maintain an open dialogue with family members. Not only will beneficiaries say more, they’ll also hear more.

Most importantly, let’s remember why we’re doing this work in the first place: we’re respecting and fulfilling the final wishes of the deceased. Yes, settling an estate can be a big job, but it doesn’t have to be a negative one. Remain objective, professional and unemotional, and the estate will be settled before you know it… without conflict.

Gregg Medwid is the owner and president of Executor Support, a firm based in Coquitlam, BC with expertise assisting executors and administrators in settling estates. The project management expertise and customer service focus Medwid brings to Executor Support ensures questions are answered and help is given when it is most needed.

This article is in no way intended to substitute for competent legal advice.

Gregg Medwid, Owner
Executor Support
gregg@executorsupport.ca
604-999-2106
http://www.ExecutorSupport.ca

A Guide to Getting Older Seniors Online

Imagine your life without email, text messaging, photo sharing, or for that matter a computer at all. If you’re like me, some days this sounds pretty ideal. But then consider all of the missed interactions with friends and family or the world of information that would suddenly become unavailable if you were never able to go online again.

But this is the reality for more than 60% of seniors over the age of 75 who don’t use any type of computer, tablet or laptop*. That’s a significant portion of the population that are completely left out of everyday online conversations. It’s no wonder 40% of older seniors also self-identify as being socially isolated. We have a great communication divide – a consequence of rapidly changing technology that has left older seniors more isolated simply because they aren’t using the same methods of communication as everyone else.

I’m not suggesting that that sending an email should replace in-person visits or phone calls. We should all make the extra effort to see each other more often and pick up the telephone instead of dashing off a quick text message, but the practical realities are that online communication makes it easier to stay in touch more often. In my experience, an email with photos of the grandkids can provide significant social value to older seniors living on their own.

Certainly there are plenty of older seniors that are expert computer users, but there is reluctance among many who simply aren’t interested in trying to keep up with ever-changing operating systems, applications and hardware. And rightfully so. Traditionally, computers have been designed for people interested in technology, leaving the ‘uninterested’ user wondering why it has to be so difficult. Over the years things have gotten better. Apple products are certainly great examples of good design, but there’s still an assumption that people know that in order to visit a website, you open something called “Safari”, or if you want to start a video chat, you click on “Skype” or that each tiny pictograph icon means…?

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Source: BigThink.com

So how can we close the great communication divide by empowering seniors to get online? Here are a few lessons that I’ve learned hard way:

  1. It’s not for you, it’s for me – if you give a computer as a gift (in particular, anyone over 80 who comes from an amazingly selfless generation) you’re likely to get a response equivalent to “Oh, I don’t need that”. But by explaining that “using email makes it easier on the rest of the family to communicate with you”, I’ve found that they are much more receptive to trying it – because they’re doing it for someone else.
  2. One thing at a time – when first introducing new technology, start by showing only one feature. If you can, hide everything else. Position the computer as a device for only one purpose: either looking at incoming email messages, viewing pre-loaded photos, or receiving Skype calls.
  3. It’s better to give than receive – once you’ve introduced email for example, continue to engage your loved one by sending messages without the expectation of any response. Just continue to provide consistent and interesting content (e.g. pictures of the grandkids) and you will be successful.

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Source: Pew Research Center’s Internet & American
Life Project. Generations and their gadgets. Washington, D.C.: Pew Research
Center; 2011.

If you’re still unsure or want to make things even easier, we developed Claris Companion to address the specific needs of older seniors and make it far easier to connect with family and friends. Our approach ties simplicity with technology – for example, on the Claris Companion, buttons say what they do (a novel idea, I know) while messages, photos, reminders and more are pushed to the device and appear full screen, in large text, with no need to launch applications, or enter passwords. So if you’re looking to improve the chances of successful adoption and want to reduce the stress introducing something new, visit us at www.clariscompanion.com

Paul Sharman, Manager
Claris Companion
P: 1-866-284-4939
E: support@clariscompanion.com

Avoid Caregiver Burnout

Sometimes the toll of being a caregiver is too much to bear. The last thing anybody wants to see is caregiver burnout. Below are some signs of caregiver stress that can lead to burnout. If you are experiencing any of these signs on a regular basis, ensure you are following some of the suggested self-care tips. As always, talk to your doctor if you feel your stress is adversely affecting your health and life; perhaps he or she may suggest other solutions based on your medical history. You may also want to inform your other family members so they are aware.

  • Physical Stress: You might get headaches, have high blood pressure, even cry and feel sick to your stomach.
  • Sleep Issues: You could toss and turn, get night sweats or have skin that feels clammy, feel wide-awake but exhausted, or just be unable to relax and rest.
  • Increased Sadness: You might cry and feel a real lump in your throat, and think negative and sad thoughts.
  • Broken Concentration: It might be hard for you to concentrate on the task at hand and even forget to do things you have planned.
  • Persistent Anxiety: You may regularly feel inadequate or anxious about how you are measuring up as a caregiver. You may feel incapable of performing the heavy caregiving work required. This may make you feel angry or guilty.
  • Exhaustion: You may notice a complete lack of energy and find daily tasks overwhelming.
  • Inability To Relax: Does your mind not allow you to let go of your day? You might not be able to sit and just watch TV or chat with a friend. You are constantly thinking of the work that needs to be done.
  • Lowered Immunity: You might get sick more often and for longer. Your immune system will be overrun by stress and unable to fight infections.
  • Extreme Irritability: You may find yourself snapping at people around you, yelling orders, and becoming generally high strung and irritable. You may feel frustrated with an overwhelmed or helpless state of mind.
  • Increased Medication Use: You may start taking drugs (even too many Tylenol or Advil), drinking too much alcohol, or smoking.

Regardless of how careful you are to incorporate self-care strategies, there are circumstances that can really take a toll on a caregiver, even though the tasks may not feel strenuous—including the length of time in the role. For example, if someone asked you to hold up a small tea light candle to help you light up the room for a few minutes, that would not cause you any issues. However, if someone asked you to hold up that same tea light for the entire day, then you would find it very uncomfortable for your arm and also for your back, neck, and head muscles.

What if you were asked to hold up a tea light candle for a few months or years? Certainly the little tea light you thought was easy to hold up in the first place has now become a health hazard for you. Compare this analogy to the role of caregiving. My hope is that you will be passing the tea light on a regular basis for others to hold to give yourself a break. For this to happen, you need to be open to asking and accepting the help.

The following article was an exurb from Karen Tyrell’s first published book called, “Cracking the Dementia Code” – Creative solutions to cope with changed behaviours which was launched on Saturday September 21st, 2013 on World Alzheimer’s Day.  To get your copy, simply use this link: http://bit.ly/15DzuSU

dementia code

To learn more about Karen and her dementia consulting company, visit: www.DementiaSolutions.ca

Karen Tyrell, CDP, CPCA
Personalized Dementia Solutions
Dementia Consultant and Educator
1 (778)-789-1496
You don’t have to journey alone.

The Globe and Mail: Unexpected death leaves wife to plot course for future

Our SBSA founder, Lynn Williams, was approached by Globe and Mail a few weeks ago for her consultation on a portfolio makeover.  Here is the  full Globe and Mail article that featured Lynn:

After losing her husband, Jim, to cancer a few years ago, Eileen finds herself facing some difficult decisions, as well as many mixed emotions. The two were happily married for more than three decades, but the end came quickly: Once Jim was diagnosed, he lived just another three months.

Eileen, 58, describes Jim as having been gregarious, generous and unafraid of risk. He made some smart money moves, including leaving her with a life-insurance policy worth more than $1-million. But he dabbled in several business ventures, one of which has since gone into receivership.

Meanwhile, Eileen, who has grown children, is feeling overwhelmed. Should she sell the family home that Jim helped to build or the couple’s beloved vacation property? How can she help her kids with university and housing costs while ensuring a stable financial future for herself? What will she be able to leave her children?

To say Jim’s estate is complicated is an understatement, she notes, which only exacerbates her financial concerns.

“I’m nervous about money and probably have an unhealthy psychology around it; I always worry about it,” Eileen admits. “I also don’t feel confident about my mutual fund investments. I already have capital losses of close to $30,000 and really feel that I haven’t invested my life insurance wisely. I worry that I won’t have enough to fully retire on and that there may not be an inheritance for our children. Had Jim lived, he would have been able to continue to provide a financial safety net that we all very much felt he gave to our family as a whole.”

The toughest question is what she should do about the couple’s real estate.

“I said I wouldn’t make any major decisions for five years, such as sell the family home of 25 years or sell our beautiful vacation home, which we love so much and where as a family we spent our summer holidays,” Eileen says. “We never talked about which house we would keep. It all happened so fast, and he was really sick. All I know is that my time owning both is limited, or I’ll go broke.”

To help Eileen make financial sense of emotionally charged circumstances, we consulted Lynn Williams, owner, chief executive officer and financial architect at the Lifestyle Protector in Vancouver, and Toronto’s John Sanchez, investment adviser with the Horwood Group at Richardson GMP .

The Basics – Eileen’s family home has been paid off and she has a line of credit worth $460,000, $86,000 of which has been used for an investment property – a townhome that is being built.

Assets:

– Family home, valued at $750,000.
– Vacation home, value uncertain, but holding approximately $300,000 in equity.
– $500,000 in mutual funds.
– $200,000 in guaranteed investment certificates.
– $50,000 in a high-interest savings account.

Monthly income:

– $500 CPP pension (survivor).
– $1,500 from part-time employment.
– $1,450 rental income from vacation property; fluctuates.
– $1,000, from kids’ debt repayment.

Monthly expenses:

– $2,300 a month in mortgage payments for vacation property.
– $600 in property taxes (for both homes).

Lynn Williams’s tips

1. Put a plan in place for Eileen’s income. It’s understandable that Eileen wants to help her kids financially, but Ms. Williams says she’s doing so without having a clear sense of her own situation. It’s also not surprising Eileen feels nervous about money, given that the only guaranteed source of money is her CPP survivor pension of $500 (which will be supplemented by her OAS beginning at 65).

“Eileen needs to take care of herself first,” Ms. Williams says. “She has to determine what her income needs are and how she’s going to generate this income from her investable assets. To retire and feel secure that her income will continue, Eileen needs to create a pension-like income from her existing investments that will be sufficient to take care of her day-to-day living expenses, essentially creating a secure income stream from her investable assets.”

This can be done using a variety of income products and structures including a life annuity, guaranteed minimum withdrawal benefit products and traditional mutual or segregated funds.

“This strategy would ensure that her basic income needs are guaranteed for life, regardless of how long she lives or how the market performs,” Ms. Williams says. “She can then decide what money, if any, is available and how she wants to help her children.”

2. Structure her investments for income rather than growth. “Eileen’s current mutual fund portfolio is structured for growth rather than income,” Ms. Williams says. “Being invested in an overly aggressive asset allocation, Eileen is taking on more risk than her needs or nerves suggest she is willing or able to tolerate.”

Ms. Williams says she’d structure Eileen’s investments to reflect a cautious investor, using predictable sources of investment income such as corporate bonds and blue-chip dividend income.

“If Eileen has provided personal guarantees for business loans and leases to keep her husband’s company liquid then her wealth could be at risk from creditors and litigation. I’d recommend, to potentially protect her assets from creditors and litigation, that Eileen consider purchasing her investments as segregated funds from an insurance company rather than buying her investments directly or by maintaining mutual funds,” she says. “Besides potentially offering creditor protection, segregated funds generally bypass the delays and potential expense of the probate process. They also help avoid market risk of a lengthy probate process.”

3. Develop a concrete plan to become debt-free. Part of Eileen’s stress appears to be coming from the mortgage she’s carrying on her vacation home, Ms. Williams notes. She also mentions $86,000 used on her line of credit for an investment property. To further reduce her money stress she needs to construct a plan to become debt-free. This likely means selling her vacation home.

“Eileen recognizes she has to come to terms with the fact she can’t keep both properties much longer,” Ms. Williams says. “It will likely become clear that she needs to sell one of her properties to provide for herself. Her homes have a lot of emotional attachment so I suggest she share her findings about her financial situation with her family. This could be done in the form of a family meeting. It will allow the children to support their mother and offer an opportunity to make a family decision to move forward.”

John Sanchez’s tips

1. Work with a qualified investment adviser to establish a comprehensive wealth plan. “The wealth plan will include a review of Eileen’s goals, risk tolerance, investment time horizon as well as her estate plan and will,” Mr. Sanchez says. “She should consider including her children in an estate planning discussion. The wealth plan can also establish strategies to ensure an equal inheritance to each of her children, taking into account the various ‘early inheritances’ already given.”

Including her children in the estate planning will likely help Eileen find peace with the real-estate quandary. “Selling the family home tends to be an emotional decision,” Mr. Sanchez says. “Downsizing eventually does make sense. Since she has sufficient assets and income from other sources, there doesn’t appear to be an urgent need to sell the home. A well-structured plan should provide Eileen with peace of mind as she transitions to retirement.”

The vacation home, however, is costing her more than she potentially stands to earn in rental income. “It appears as though the rental property is a cash drag, so it doesn’t appear to fit from an investment perspective,” Mr. Sanchez says.

2. Review insurance coverage to see whether there are any gaps.“Eileen should review her existing life insurance coverage with a qualified professional to ensure that it covers her various needs,” Mr. Sanchez says. “For example, a small whole-life policy would allow her to create or preserve an inheritance with the added security of providing cash values if required for retirement.”

Eileen should also consider long-term care insurance, which would provide her with regular income to offset the costs associated with future health-care needs such as nursing care, either in-home or in a long-term care facility, he says.

3. Review Eileen’s investment risk tolerance and adjust her portfolio accordingly. “A review of her risk tolerance would produce an asset allocation that can be used as a road map to develop a diversified portfolio of fixed income and domestic and global equities,” Mr. Sanchez says. “Her portfolio losses are mainly a result of her two most aggressive investments, a precious metals fund and an emerging markets fund. These should be trimmed down or removed to reduce overall volatility. The realized capital losses can be used to offset capital gains from the previous three years or carried forward indefinitely to offset capital gains in the future.”

Eileen should also consider investing in tax-efficient corporate class mutual funds, which may help to reduce taxable investment income each year, Mr. Sanchez adds.

“Eileen should also be aware that many of her funds are invested in an option known as deferred service charge [DSC], which means the investor incurs fees on redemption,” he notes. “She should review the fees in detail before making any investment changes. You can often switch to other funds from the same provider without triggering the redemption fees.”

Source: The Globe and Mail

Gail Johnson

Special to The Globe and Mail
Published Monday, Aug. 12 2013, 1:20 PM EDT
Last updated Friday, Sep. 13 2013, 1:34 PM EDT

Don’t just listen, mirror!

What is the main reason that relationships fail?

Communication. Yes, thats right! Misunderstood, negative, and avoided communication derails relationships. Good news! There is a simple technique I teach to couples that dramatically improves communication in peoples relationships, so get excited!

sbsa couple_conversation

Maladaptive communication

A leading factor for relationship breakdown.  f you think about your own relationships, something small can sometimes turn into a big miscommuncation. People come into to see me when they feel like they have not been able to work these miscommunications out on their own at home. The Imago Intentional Dialogue helps couples connect and communicate in a safe and structured manner. This relationship tool has three parts: mirroring, validation, and empathy. Let’s break down mirroring:

  • Mirroring: repeating back what you heard your partner say, using their words verbatim as much as possible, to convey active listening and being available and present
  • Check out: “Have I got you?” making sure you are getting your partner, and giving your partner a chance to clarify anything or say again what they want you to get
  • Keep going: “Tell me more” listening in a way that makes your partner want to keep talking, managing your own reactivity, and letting your partner flush out what they need to express to you

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The Important Things:

  • Note that the listener doesn’t just get railroaded with the couples dialogueas the listener also has a legitimate grievance , but the point is that it’s the listener’s time to listen. If the listener has some issues and wants to talk to their partner, you can initiate a couples dialogue at a later time.
  • It’s about practicing listening to each other. It can be incredible to feel heard and to feel validated about whats going on for you. Its an awesome tool to learn, and I challenge you to try mirroring your partner, family, or friend, when they are frustrated with you about something.

So, the simple technique of mirroring dramatically improves communication in peoples relationships. This is just PART of the couples dialogue. An Imago therapist facilitates the full dialogue, helps couples deeply explores important issues, and teaches and encourages validation and empathy.

  • How is your communication? Do simple issues turn into a big fight? Is your relationship ok most of the time but you have a couple hot issues to work through? Do you have pervasive issues but wants to resolve things?
  • Something to think about: I recommend coming to counselling as a preventative measure and learn how to manage conflict when it comes up
  • You do not want to wait until a big issue comes up, like an affair, which leads to longterm counselling or, even worse, divorce, which is very expensive and painful.
  • Last but not least, prioritize your relationships!

Grace McDonald, M.A., RCC, RMFT
Registered Marriage & Family Therapist
Registered Clinical Counselor
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Owning Shares in a Company When You Die

What happens to your company when you die? Does it die with you? Live on? Who will supervise and pay the staff? Or, perhaps the deceased was a 1-person-show… no staff… does that mean we can just ignore the company? Are there partners? Other shareholders? Was the company incorporated, or was it a sole proprietorship? Or, perhaps the deceased didn’t run his/her own company, but rather played the stock market, meaning there are shares in a few publicly-traded companies. Every scenario is different, so this article will touch on a few of the more common issues.

Sole proprietorship – These companies are usually very small, often times a 1-person-show. Typically, with the death of the owner, the company dies with them. There may well be assets and liabilities which will need to be dealt with, 3rd parties who need to be contacted, staff, customers, unfilled orders… but likely everything will likely be on a smaller scale. The good news is that there’s no corporate entity to dissolve or sell, and any revenue & expenses of the company are included in the deceased’s final personal tax return.

Small, incorporated company – Small doesn’t necessarily make it easy. First thing, find the Minute Book, which might be in the deceased’s office or the lawyer’s office. This will provide a breakdown of the corporate ownership, information about directors and officers and, hopefully, information about how shares owned by the deceased are to be treated. You will need to determine the value of the company, possibly with professional assistance, so that you can determine the value of the deceased’s shares. After probate has been granted, the shares can be transferred as set out in the Minute Book. For instance, they might get sold back to the company at fair market value or for the original purchase price. Or, they might get transferred to other shareholders. Again, the sale price is important. You will need to determine if the deceased owed money to the company, or vice-versa, as this will impact the list of assets and liabilities. Someone may need to be brought in to run the company, especially if there is staff, customers and unfilled orders.

Publicly-traded shares – You will need to determine the value of the shares as of the date of death, so just look up the closing price for each company on the date of death, multiple by the number of shares, and that’s the value. Those are the easy ones. The tough ones are those ancient certificates you find in the safety deposit box, where the company has been bought and sold numerous times, amalgamated with other companies, and the name has been changed. You will need to do some research to find out the current name of the company, or find out if/when the company was de-listed. Researching old companies can be quite a chore. After probate has been granted the shares will need to be transferred to the executor or someone else, which requires you to find out the name of the transfer agent and then fill out a few forms. Sometimes the transfer fee is more than the shares are worth, so you will have to decide if you even want to bother.

Gregg Medwid is the owner and president of Executor Support, a firm based in Coquitlam, British Columbia, with expertise assisting executors and administrators in settling estates. The project management expertise and customer service focus Medwid brings to Executor Support ensures questions are answered and help is given when it is most needed.

This article is in no way intended to substitute for competent legal advice.

Gregg Medwid, Owner
Executor Support
gregg@executorsupport.ca
604-999-2106
http://www.ExecutorSupport.ca

Say Goodbye to Clutter (part II)

Last week I shared with you the first part of “Say Goodbye to Clutter” and as promised, here is the second part with the next 5 steps:

  1. Never Leave Home Empty Handed

Once you have determined what your categories are, it is essential to follow through on the exit strategy. If there is a clothing donation drop on your way to work, take a bag with you as you leave in the morning. When does the recycling truck come to your area? Make sure those bags of mixed paper and shredding are out there every week. Call the charities and find out when they will be in your neighborhood, and plan your de-cluttering around their schedule. Don’t leave bags and boxes parked in your hallway or garage for indefinite periods.

  1. Resist the Urge to Rent External Storage

Storage facilities have a specific purpose in the downsizing process. You might want to use it temporarily to house excess furniture or artwork while you are staging and showing the home for sale. Storage lockers fall on the heading of postponement tactics. The danger is mostly to your pocketbook. Storage is an ongoing expense. It is better to deal with items of questionable value before making the move.

  1. Call Your Kids

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How much of what is crowding your house is actually yours, and how much are storing for other people? If your children have moved out, have them decide if they want to take all the things they left behind or have them make other arrangements for them. You can’t let other people hold you back from achieving your objectives.

  1. Ask for Help

If you feel you are not up to the task, why not ask a trusted friend, family member or a professional to assist. Choose someone who is objective and decisive and not involved emotionally with your possessions. Downsizing is a great way to bond with family members as an opportunity to honor the past and share the stories.

  1. Make it easy. Get it done

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Whether you choose to sell, donate or toss, choose a method that causes the least wear and tear on you. This can be an exhaustive activity, performed best in stages and small chunks over a period of time. Use the Internet extensively to find resources for distribution of unusual objects or substances. Garage sales can be effective, but they require a great deal of planning, pricing and a fall-back plan for those items that don’t sell. Connect with charities that will pick up your clothing and household goods. Ditto for consignment. Give your friends and family deadlines for taking the stuff you have saved for them. Reward yourself with a new purchase that you have been postponing because you did no have enough room.

Once you have run the gauntlet, the rewards of de-cluttering are manifold. It saves your money, as there is less to move. It saves you time. Everything you own requires time and attention. Less stuff translates to more time for you. It also reduces the stress associated with a major change. And, finally, when you are ready to downsize to a retirement community, townhouse or condo, settling in will easier.

If you have any question, simply comment below or even better, contact us at Good Riddance! We’d love to hear from you.

Susan Borax
E: goodriddance@shaw.ca
P: 604 421 5952

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Susan Borax and Heather Knittel
Co-author of Good Riddance: Showing Clutter the Door.
Good Riddance Professional Organizing Solutions
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